Measure It UP

IMG_1044How do you measure your life?
What does success look like to you?  

How do you determine your worth?  

Do you find yourself comparing your life, your days, your looks, your accomplishments to others and find yourself feeling “less than?”

I do…

Whenever I start looking to others to measure my worth, I find myself lacking.  There is always someone better, more beautiful, more energetic, more joyful, more productive than I am.  This world continually shows us countless examples of “greater than” versions of ourselves.  In my 50 years on this earth, I have come to realize that I can’t compare myself to others to measure my worth and my success…when I do that, I find myself feeling down.  Many days, I can’t even measure up to my own expectations of myself and what I wish I would be…

I thought that once my boys were in college, I’d get my house in order…get more organized…have more time.  And, in some ways, this is true.  But, I still find myself living within several not-so-organized, not-so-cleaned-up areas.  It helps to know someone is coming over for a visit, and then I can get things a bit more tidy.  Does throwing all the paper clutter into a laundry basket and putting it on the washing machine count as organized?

I know keeping a super tidy home is not the most important thing…it’s the people in my life and relationships that matter the most.  I want to make a positive difference in this world,  love and encourage others, and be a blessing in big and small ways.  But, I don’t measure up to my wishes in this area either.

Maybe I’m not meant to get my worth by comparing myself to others or even to myself anyway…As I’ve gotten older, I am learning…
to rest in God’s love more,
to give myself more grace,
to “beat myself up” less,
to play less of the comparison game.

It’s not easy, but I believe it has to do with where I choose to look…My house may never get organized, but every day is a new opportunity to love God and love others.  And, although I will continue to not measure up by the world’s standards…this is not what gives me my worth.

How do you measure your life?
What does success look like to you?
How do you determine your worth?

I believe our worth is not based on what we do, but on whose we are.

I thank God for the gift of parents that loved me unconditionally.  From the moment I was born, I belonged to them and nothing could ever change that.  I made my share of mistakes along the way, but that didn’t change their love for me.

As a mom of two boys, I understand this kind of love.  I will always be “in their corner” and “on their team.”  I will always want the very best for them.  They will always be my sons and they will always have my love, apart from anything they do or don’t do.

I believe God loves each one of us with this same kind of unconditional love.  But, His love is SO much greater…it is beyond anything we could measure.

Romans 5:8 says, But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” and Romans 8:31b-32 says, “If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare His own Son, but gave Him up for us all–how will He not also, along with Him, graciously give us all things?”  

So, I am learning…

*If I want to measure my worth, I need to measure it UP against His love.*

We are God’s most-treasured creation and He’s proven His love for us in the greatest way possible.  He will always be “in our corner” with open, outstretched arms.  We can lean into His love and He will always be there.

When I was a young girl, I used to pick daisies and pull off the petals.  Maybe you did this too.  The popular saying was, “He loves me…he loves me not…he loves me…”  Even though it was just a game, I always hoped the last petal I pulled would be “He loves me.”
The great news is that with God, every petal says, “He loves me.”  Every single one.  

Luke 12:6-7 says, Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God.  Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”  Zephaniah 3:17 (GW version) says, “The Lord your God is with you.  He is a hero who saves you.  He happily rejoices over you, renews you with His love, and celebrates over you with shouts of joy.”  Psalm 139:13 says, “For you created my inmost being.  You knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.  I know that full well.”

How should we measure our worth?
*May we measure it UP against His love.*  

One of my very favorite verses in the Bible is Ephesians 3:20.  “Now to Him who is able to do IMMEASURABLY MORE than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be the glory…forever and ever. Amen.”

I believe this is not only talking about all He can and does do in our lives…IMMEASURABLY MORE.  But, also His love is IMMEASURABLY MORE than all we can imagine.

*If we want to measure our worth, may we measure it UP against His love.*

John 3:16-17  says, “For God SO loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him.”

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